“No one is born hating another person because of the colour of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.”
~ Nelson Mandela
It’s true we find comfort in the idea that one day we might all get along as one single sustainable unit. It’s why we prescribe things like patience and humility. Prescriptions designed to create better life experiences. Better that is, than things we find unpredictable because we see chaos as a sign of being out of alignment.
An alignment that tells us anger, sadness, relationship issues are all signs of something being unresolved or off track. Signs that we need to do things differently until the signs change to match those we recognise as flow.
Signs of flow tell us the world is a friendly place, that we are doing a good job. And when we get down to it, that’s what our seeking flow is really about. It’s about figuring out how well we’re doing and wanting some certainty that we can control life just enough to avoid drama and attract the rewards of being a good person.
The question is, if we want more flow as proof of being a good person, then how can we make sense of the times we don’t see the proof (and still love ourselves unconditionally)?
How do we make sense of the fact that while the proof we need is universal (the same for everyone), in reality do we not start out out on equal ground? When each of us has unique genetic, environmental, spiritual, and cultural aspects to negotiate, the ability to be brave, to be compassionate and mindful are more than choices. When we consider ourselves subjects of circumstance, the flow of life is about being able to recognise the divine in all things not just the things that look like proof of being a good person.
It is said that the secret to happiness is freedom. Whether it’s the freedom to be who we are, or freedom from chaos… we will never know our true worth or be able to love unconditionally until we stop evaluating the signs, and start trusting everything as Spirit manifest.